Boyfriend said i ruined his life Your life isn't ruined. I can't imagine what David could say to get me on his side. The following list of dos and don’ts for how to fix a relationship you “ruined” isn’t theoretical. I think what happened has nothing to do with you. I kept questioning his interest and feeling like he didn’t Just want to say that your life is far from ruined you could be doing so much worse at 20!! I have many friends who turned 18 and immediately lost their brains they wracked up tons of credit card debt, ruined their FICO scores for 7+ years, committed crimes, got addicted to drugs, even got pregnant on accident. The friend just said he didn’t have a problem with drink and he just likes to party. (or New Years) gift of leaving this permanent unhappiness behind you and starting life over without your bf’s selfishness. After we talked it through I At the end of 2021, we decided to move in together. He turns it off. like you said, he’s a great person so i doubt he was doing it just to be a prick. If you feel you’re getting on his nerves (as I used to with my boyfriend), make an effort to say positive things out loud. He said thats gross. Will use fake names. He is the pride and joy of my life. I just wanted to thank everyone. He showed me a video of us doing it and him saying I love you and I whispering it back. My boyfriend said it's just a government piece of paper and doesn't change our actual relationship and we adore each other. ) He tells me it's my fault he lost his friends. I can't confess to his family. Wishing you all the best with the remainder of your pregnancy Ellie explained that her pregnancy at the age of just 16 was not planned at all, as she was on contraception at the time. "So stop trying. 29 votes, 74 comments. My best friend enticed my (ex) boyfriend during a Christmas party I was passed out in the other room at. It isn't the end, just the end of the beginning. I found everything. Boyfriend found out about the date/lie and now won’t talk to me. However, the other day he put on a video of a girl who is a professional athlete and mentioned he had a "crush" on her. All names are changed/fake. He had a voucher that gave him 2 free nights so he only paid for one of the three nights but I split it with him and paid him back half of the amount. He likely won't ever be able to get a manufacturing license for the rest of his life and they said essentially that he won't be able to open 4. OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: I feel as though i was harsh to judge him and his relationship with his mum, and said somethings that were incredibly uncalled for. I listened and my boyfriend started saying how his ex was the most attractive person he's dated. He had so many flaws but still would have chosen him. She was what you needed at the beginning but now she isn't worth your time & energy. The realization of how badly I ruined my son’s life hit me when I picked up his first prescription of anti-depressants today. when I bring it up my boyfriend He tells me ive He said the pain of our daughters diagnosis lead him to fall from what he truly wants with his life, and after 6 months and lots of conversations, I decided to look for a local apartment so we could start parenting together again, and have him move here. She got on his lap and started kissing him. you are good enough for a relationship but not marriage. true. Nothing. My first boyfriend was 5'6". It’s his understanding of people having needs and interests different from his that he has troubles with. You're only twenty-three so maybe you're not used to being in an adult relationship founded on mutual respect. It seems perfectly reasonable that if you’re a guy and you’re out and a So if they start to say things to you like "we don't have to do everything together" or other indicators that they don't want to spend time with you as much, thing likely aren't headed in a My boyfriend was looking for a towel to use one time, and picked up one i had used on my period seeing some blood. Me, me, me. For a little context: I work at a vape shop which is already in a rough space due to regulations and laws the government is putting on us. A few weeks ago I had a mental breakdown and basically felt so overwhelmed with moving and my own depression so I took it out on my boyfriend and told him I would tell everyone he is an abuser if he left me, in the first year of dating he put his hands on my neck when he was upset at me and said he never did that before and claimed its because My boyfriend and I went to a play, and then he wanted to take me to a fancy cocktail place. We're slowly rebuilding civilized communication. Every time we fight my husband tells me I ruined his life. That's why he always gets mad at me now, because he feels as though it's my fault he no longer has a social life and he blames me all the time for it. my boyfriend cheated on me. I was beyond devastated, because Jen and I were really close and she was my role model. This all happened ten years ago when I was 19. " In the week my brother was locked up, he got fired from his job at the shop. But you can't do this alone. Our relationship was so rocky I blocked his number the first time, later on He reassured me that with him I’d never have to question or second guess, that he would never do anything to hurt me. My husband called me multiple times but I couldn't answer him. I (27f) have ruined my 8 year relationship with my compassionate boyfriend (m28) by being petty to one of his friends. Over the A teenage mother who gave birth at 16 says her boyfriend accused her of having 'ruined his life' after she told him she was pregnant. He also said constantly texting and calling is a very teenager thing to do. My (23f) boyfriend (25m) of one year planned a trip for us to the casino for valentines day and the few days leading up to it. She told me she wanted a divorce right there. If you're both still be down for the big grand gesture, he'll let you know and then you can let him do his thing. Yep, she "won" and isn't happy at all. Now I know you’re going to say that my story sounds like he doesn’t have a grip on his emotions. He told me I am the worst girlfriend ever, I ruined his birthday, and that I make him do everything I want to do but don’t do anything in return for him. I, of course, went through with my threat and messaged his friend asking to hangout. Sounds like a really cool kid to me and has a ton of talents I wish I had He says he doesn't like the area twice and said he wanted to stay home and u just ignored it. He ruined his own life by pressuring you to move in so early and by not supporting your decision to have your own career. I had a highly socialized cat who needed people around her so when I traveled, I dropped her off at the home a family member who lived alone Claiming you ruined her life, that's horrible and even worse. But it I feel like I ruined his life when I broke up with him. Especially now that you’re After having sex one time he pulled out his phone and went on Instagram and heard him watch something like “99% of the world’s problems would be solved if women had their body count on his head” and he said “facts!” I don’t know why I ignored it. Suspicious-Emu-1410 yeah i guess it built up with him, everything was probably a lot and the whole situation of having to ignore people he probably wants to get to know is probably hard in itself. He said we could both start communicating better and our relationship can improve. Friend support girlfriend after disagreement, break up with a loved Join our free community of superfans today and get access to courses, affirmations, accountability, and so much more plus meet other like-minded positive people committed to living the power of positivity. what you guys did is genuinely unforgivable. For the next few hours, I'm tossing and turning in bed, I'm scratching his back, I've gotten up out of bed 3 times, he's asleep cuddling me and I'm scrolling on my phone, waiting. Who couldn't keep a promise of faithfulness to his wife, nor a promise to leave her for his side piece. This is the statement of a teenager throwing a fit. Alcohol pretty much ruined every relationship I had for years — here’s how: I either drank too much or they did. I said I wasn’t in the mood for a drink, but I was in the mood for . She is not the girl for you. We planned a day together, going on a short road trip and then dinner. She won’t even eat unless she gets high I don't remember much but he pulled me over and drove to his house. I don’t know exactly how the conversation went, but if you just asked him, then told him you disagree, then he got defensive and said you ruined his day, yeah he overreacted. I was really hateful towards her and said, "Fine, you can but you really think any man would ever want you with your baggage (my kids). By the time I was 15 my mom ran off with a boyfriend and I just continued living with my grandparents. ” No, you didn't ruin his life. I (23F) ruined my boyfriends (28M) birthday. Thank you for that memory. ——————————————————— My current boyfriend and I started dating 5 months ago. He was also the most understanding boyfriend when I first told him about my late partner’s passing and my grieving journey. He told me I ruined his life and that he hated me and that I’m disgusting and no man will ever love me. I understand he fucked up ur bday but at least when u said u wanted to spend time with him u still got to spend the time with him at ur place. And it was 11 years of "I ruined his life," when in fact he ruined mine. That he loved me and it took him a bit to realize that. Before I moved out, he asked my dad’s permission to marry me and my dad said yes, that’s how amazing our I said I ruined you two he said he did too, He wants me to stay I honestly don’t know I apologized and we ended up going through all our memories and I told him that I am leaving no matter what and I’m sorry that I ruined everything that I don’t deserve his forgiveness I am leaving my ring on the table and going soon. He met his girlfriend, who is just as bad with the drink and can’t function without weed. A toxic partner is someone who brings more pain than joy into your life. I'm a girl too. The second choice. Woman Breaks up with Boyfriend After He Crashes Own Birthday with Unannounced Friends and Demands She Pays for Everyone: : ‘Called me cheap and said I ruined his birthday' - We share because we care. Anyways, I don’t know if I am in the wrong or if it’s just his life perception that being short is bad but either way I feel terrible. They said what happened and I said, he was sleeping with a 19 year old student when he was 26 and he had to leave the program without a PhD because he couldn’t afford to stay after losing his scholarship. Then he spoke. I talked with my boyfriend about it and he was not happy about the idea. I The man who shot and killed Ashley Dale in her home has said her boyfriend "ruined his life. I came out to him earlier on this month and naturally, he's crushed. The new series of Teen Mom UK: Next Generation is starting and will follow the And I want to say that you are not ruining his life! He’s lucky to have someone who cares about his well-being as much as you do. Husband after the quarrel apologize, interruption of unwanted pregnancy, miscarriage. -on my way to his family’s house, he was sending me houses on Zillow so I thought he was conditioning me to have our He said that I could check his phone and go through his laptop and call his boss to confirm that he actually had been at work. We went to their house to visit and the moment we walked in the door, my fiancé’s grandma said “congratulations!!” I was so confused and was like “uh thanks? On what though?” All this to say that 10 years later he still makes random Facebook accounts and changes his phone number all so he can send me random messages about how I ruined his life by divorcing him (it was a default divorce because he thought if he didn't respond that it couldn't happen. He has been very upset since we got married and finally told me all these today. Just some context: my ex boyfriend has been on and off accusing me of ruining his life because he is unable to get a job because I’ve been ‘such a manipulative bitch’ and caused him emotional trauma from our unhealthy relationship. Though relationships require work, you should never feel constantly diminished, criticized, or controlled. The words “You make me miserable” can be said in the heat of an argument and mean nothing more than that the person is upset at the moment. Mike and I booked a very nice hotel for last weekend (December 6-8) in the city and we were planning to enjoy it together as we’ve been dating for 6 month. Remembering the dead isn't about clinging to material items from when they were alive, it's about behaving in a way that would make them proud of you and carrying on their memory with your good influence in the world. I'm so broken. Share this: Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window) began distributing fliers that said Brenda’s live-in boyfriend was on probation for a sex offense involving a There are customs and responsibilities. When I told him he needed to work because we are running out of money, he snapped that I ruined his life by forcing him to have a baby. You might have become used to being emotionally bulldozed by your husband and feeling as though you have no say Hey op listen to me right now. Give him more time to acclimate to the apartment before you do anything, but either way you haven’t ‘ruined his life’ just because there are several homes with several people who love the cat. Don't At least now everyone, including his family, believes me now. The company's HQ was in a neighboring state, a six-hour drive or about a 40-minute flight. Around the holidays, I found out my then-boyfriend (Kevin) was cheating on me with my older sister (Jen). I’m really sorry that you had to hear that because you’re amazing and she doesn’t deserve you if she thinks you ruined her life Your life isn't ruined. I can't bring myself to say exactly what I did, if someone did this to my Son, or even if someone had done it to my ex, I would instantly think murderous thoughts. Good for him. He ruined his on life by being a predator and obsessing over his victim. But when I handed him his medication, I could not even recognize him. If I was attracted to you as a potential boyfriend, I couldn't care less that you have been with an escort. I prioritized my family over my casual dates, of course. We were together nearly 14 years. My wife started laughing. The ability to say, “I’ll have a water” when going out to lunch. When you're seeking a partner, or even just new friends, it can be wise to know some of the potential clues that a person might be drama-prone. EntrepreneurAmazing3 You helped him more than any normal person would yet he wants to say that you ruined his life? He would've Its unfair for him to say your ruining his life tho. I'm confused by what he means by "choosing them over you. The other day my boyfriend said he could smell that I was going to get my period in the next day or two and I said no way I don’t even have cramps yet and then 6 hours later I got cramps and the next day I got my period. My boss suspended me for his negligence so I ruined his life. Many people would have said, well fuck them, it's your life and you should do as you want to. But the fact that you can predict "she won't be able to resist opening this video", and we all just accept that she'll see it without you even needing to mention that part, that's already crossing the line of entitled parenting. The space just isn't large enough. He ruined his entire life in a I (23F) and my boyfriend (30M) have been dating for 2 years. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. But in case you are, what do you get out of being with this guy? But as other commenters have said - remember you aren’t seeing reality, only your perception. She said if I helped her, she might have had the time. I was just watching it all fall apart. You ruined his life (in his eyes) by keeping the child and you ruined your life for potentially many years to come. You don't have to discuss his exact plans, but ask him whether a proposal is important to him, and tell him how important it is to you. I told my boyfriend (now ex-boyfriend) six months into our relationship the same day I found out. Neither are you for his piss poor victim attitude or manipulative behavior. She says he sometimes explodes in rants out of nowhere, saying I ruined his But instead I said, 'You ruined my life!’” A cousin of mine (who very much loved his own mother) told me that joke, which works well because so many of us do feel that our mother (or father My boyfriend and I met online 11 months ago, and we’ve been living together for about 4 months. My life is ruined, I’m I ruined my ex-boyfriend’s life 20+ years ago and I just made sure it stayed ruined. My boyfriend ruined my birthday and I don’t know what to do now I (23 F) and my boyfriend (23M) have been together for a few months and planned a cruise for our collective birthdays (mine is the 1st of October and his is the 14th). Maybe doing brunch with one of his friends. It is both of your fault. He’s more mature with emotions and dealing with them, which is where I lack. He made me feel absolutely terrible, so much so that I let my comments about him not working drop completely. Narcissists, sociopaths, and psychopaths believe that the world owes them something. We decided to pay separately and I made payments every so often so I didn’t have to do it all at once. his life is ruined, and i feel like mine is too. This is all you care about. However, if For me, it was the roommate who simultaneously 1) Confronted his roommate (presumably jeopardizing his own living stability) 2) Told on his roommate's schooling (so they were in a related field), 3) Apparently is a single hetero, 4) but spent the night with OP, and walked out in his underwear 5) while still rubbing salt in the BFs wounds, who, remember, he still has to work with. you ruined his life. We were together for a year, and I became really close to his family. " He said he doesn’t care if he lives or dies now that I’m no longer in his life so is out to just have fun. Archived post. I told him the whole story and how I didn't want to go back with her. I don't care what you all have to say about me but please help me help him. If you do, seek them out for assistance. When I first met her, we were in a group of three, and the back and forth jokes between them was cute to me and I thought it was healthy. Basically, I asked him what was on his mind and he said he's angry because I wasted his time and our relationship was a lie. He said “he's literally the hottest person I've ever been with” when his friend asked did he think I was attractive, he said “she's a pretty girl, but (Ex) is definitely more attractive than her or anyone else I've dated. If your partner makes you feel wrong about everything, you probably also feel a drop in self-esteem. For the past 2 years we have tried to co-parent, and it's ok sometimes, but every now and then he'll bring up how I "ruined his life": That I weaponized sex against him[I never used it as a weapon-I stopped having sex with him bc I broke up with him, I don't sleep with people I'm not in a relationship with, plus we had not been in a good place In the first lines you beat yourself up a lot. " James Witham, 41, has admitted driving to Ashley's home in Leinster Road, Old Swan, and barging I think your brother is dying of guilt- while you say it was consensual, you were 12, he was 15. This is not love or support, this is disrespect and verbal/emotional abuse. . And her new bf is not "playing family" His is their family. Yeah. He said he forgot to tell me that he had plans over at his brothers house (about 90 min away) and that we could do something on Sunday. We had been building a life together. My intention was to just get my father to take me and my siblings in but karma bit my mother in the ass real nice. I know altruism is bullshit and egoism or self Telling you you ruined her life is a big thing. She is not owed obedience, or affection and respect she did not earn. My mom said “ooh nice. Thank you all for giving me the courage to report. My husband told his ex affair partner about our sex life while we 4. My first boyfriend at 12 was a 17 year old high school senior while I was in middle school. But, once he was out of the nursing home he had gained something. He felt that it wiped his savings and he couldn't pursue his dreams. And he confidently said, "we'll see, that will change this year" with a smirk on his face. My boyfriend already told his ex that he would be out of town that day if their son needed anything. That's her karma. You stated if you were to get pregnant you'd keep the child. To everyone on the fringes of his once expansive social circle, he was just "the asshole who tried to hit a girl. I woke up the morning naked beside him. You are 22 you have a lot in front of you. Another absolute lie. He said he still loves me, and he doesn't know why he did it. I packed up my life and moved across the country to be with him in Virginia. In short,he feels that I wrong-armed him into marriage and emotionally manipulated him to get a house with him. His favorite stew is beef tips and vegetables from a local place, but it’s really Stop Trying to Fix It. but he deserves to choose a future based off the truth. You just "ruined" a relationship with an overly judgemental girl. In my sleepy state (i was sleeping lol) i said what the fuck is wrong with you, if you dont like periods date a man. Consider whether blaming you for his misery is abusive. Whether it be his mood, his day, how I clean around our apartment, how I handle things with co workers, etc he says I just ruin things and I am not responsible or grown enough to Before I knew it his mother started berating me saying things like "young lady do you understand you are ruining my son's life", "I never liked you from the start & I told my son you were no good", "you had a child with another man & ruined his life & now you are here ruining my son's when I have worked so hard to teach him better. I tried apologizing but I’m a mess and he saw that clearly. 1K votes, 596 comments. He has every right to be upset. Got him to shut up so fast. So, she is bitter towards us. You didn't ruin the proposal, though, because the only way to do that would be to say no! I'm I've been dating my boyfriend for the past 9 months. he said he didn't like the place and u didn't listen. ” I turned around and asked what he was doing and he quickly said “nothing” and played it off by giving her his business card. Guess who ruined their boyfriend’s plan for proposal at the fancy cocktail place, and had stinky onion breath when he improvised another proposal location? We are in our 30's and he said that texting and talking on the phone slows him down in his daily activities. He AND his family would say I ruined holidays etc every single time. It sounds like u took him where u wanted to go for his bday. Guy calms frustrated girl. Now he’s ignoring me and hasn’t replied since. She’ll eventually lose him the same way she got him but she’s He does get access to our newborn at least once a week (if he comes with his parents) if he wishes. I was wrong his location app signal was bouncing because his WiFi was off. , cut off contact with guy when I started falling for current boyfriend. Look at just those facts through today’s lenses. my boyfriend and his ex were just talking behind my back soo don’t even know why he bothered answering, she broke him very bad Reply reply He then backed away farther from me and sat silent sometimes looking at his phone. If the ex boyfriend was jealous of how much time she spends with you, having someone else will help balance out her time with you and her other priorities in her life. Our relationship has been amazing and we always seem to be on the same page. But when my husband and I knew we were going to get married, I stood up for him, refused to let anyone trash talk him or bully him. Think about who you may have in your life that can help. I’m not gonna say anything that hasn’t been said, but your perception is really fucked up and you seem really immature. I’ve either dated alcoholics or guys who barely drank at all. Only one thats ruining his life is him! He may come around, he may not id give him time tho and try to work on it if you think its worth it! They say not to make a major life desision when a big life change is happening so maybe dont ditch him yet, id wait to see if he comes around, who knows It's true. At this point, I’ve honestly pictured what the rest of my life would look like with him in it, and he’s said the same. Here are the indicators that you should re There are signs your partner is mentally abusive (also called emotionally or psychologically abusive) that have little to nothing to do with physical violence at all. I bet she feels like a million bucks with her divorced, cheating husband who lost half his assets and may pay alimony. Prior to moving in with me, he’s lived with his mum for his entire life and she does everything for him by choice and therefore he’s never had a chance to learn to be an adult. I slept with him that night and ruined their friendship. It was worded very disrespectfully. He does. “I’ll stop ruining your life right now!” You didn’t ask to be born, she “ruined” her own life. I needed to say this somewhere because no one knows about this apart from me. I thought it was a passing phase. as i said, a lot of them only believe in relationships with women for the sake of marriage and some have chaperones present when At the center of a narcissist’s destructive behavior towards others is an excessive sense of entitlement. "My father Years ago, he started a trucking company with his best friend. I guess what I did was a protest behavior. This disfiguring disease has ruined my life. 00Wildflower00 Boyfriend of two years can’t say he wants to marry me. I am 5'10" (5'11" in basically any footwear). Boyfriend = Mike. I can’t help but feel responsible for ruining his life and I feel guilty as I’m turning my life around for the better - becoming more independent, am more successful in my career and am in the process of buying a house for myself. I genuinely feel like complete shit because being 5’3 as an adult male seems fucking brutal (would never say this to him). Sunday morning comes, his phone alarm rings pretty early. During certain life stages, it can be particularly Idealization: The narcissist puts their partner on a pedestal. He is still sleeping. We talked on the phone the night before, and things seemed to be okay. I am a 21 going on 22 year old male who has been balding since 17. I (23F) and my boyfriend (30M) have been dating for 2 years. When searching for this post, google suggested stuff like "i cheated on my husband and never told him" or "and ruined MY life". You are young enough to live a good life. Everytime I would say that to him (he acted very shady a lot so I was suspicious), he would get all weird. We were conversing and something got brought up that led to my boyfriend pulling up his phone to Google something. Basically, just my looks and bedroom fun and that’s all I had but in the end that’s what he wanted “for now. " He was distant, avoiding my questions, and my heart sank with every excuse. He also got his own life back on track, he finally ended his relationship, he and his family left the cult, and he's built an amazing life with so many new people and hobbies for I ruined his life and I regret it. Girl, no one has the right to hold you back from having a career or doing whatever makes you happy in life. But this is your real life and you only get to User stewlessinseattle said in her post, "My boyfriend loves stew; he wants to eat it every day for every meal. my boyfriend had asked what I was doing and I said jokingly none of your business and to make sure he knew I was I said joking x and then i said it again just to annoy him a little and said jokingg after I was going to tell him but I just wanted to tease him I'm fasting so i just needed to do something fun, and he told me"there’s a point Early on in the relationship we went to meet one of his girlfriends who he said he'd *known for 10 years and even lived with but nothing ever happened. You proceeded. I'm devastated. But that is not to say, I My boyfriend (now fiancé) apparently told his parents he was planning to propose, and his mom told her parents, they misunderstood thinking he already proposed. You need to find a therapist to help with your feelings. My boyfriend cheated with his ex. If you confront them about something So, if you got caught in the crossfire of a heated breakup and your boyfriend said this to you then don’t take it personally. I was laying next to him looking at his phone (so we could both see what Google said) and as he opened the search bar, I saw a few rows down that he looked up "engagement rings". Like I said, I will allow him access to our 5 year old and infant, once he does the necessary work on himself. Tldr: got mad at my boyfriend for a joke, called him to talk about it but now I think I've ruined my relationship when I was trying to be open with him. And he said I ruined this weekend, and he didn't want to talk to me. This is beyond ridiculous. It ruined his life. He couldn’t break away from me though (or I from him), he said he couldn’t picture his life without me Part of working on your self-esteem involves learning what makes you feel good and benefits you. This is not your problem. I am awake now. Make an effort to NOT say negative things. multilanguage1996 • You'll have to ditch the guy and find somebody that wants to marry. Inside of me I have an anger that never goes away, and a need for attention. Lost his right leg below the knee and had some really gnarly scars. His sister keeps me informed now because she is afraid he will still hurt me someday. I've had to watch him go through all the stages of grief and today it was his turn to be angry. Me too. He is an adult who is capable of making his own decisions. Ex-Boyfriend = Adam. I was rude to one of my boyfriends lady friend who was a victim of child r*pe. Please view our voting guide here, and remember to use only one judgement in your comment. I think I ruined my relationship with my boyfriend, but I want to fix it [new] eats, and sleeps on repeat, he's like a robot. I posted on reddit couple of months ago and received so much hate. I feel everything he said to me is true. Husband after If your partner casually says something rude and it hurts your feelings, "first try to figure out their intent and if they were meaning to be hurtful, or if it’s really miscommunication Check out these 12 signs that point to your partner killing your self-esteem. . he has shown to be not only a better husband but a better father to the kids too. You may have ruined it, or he’ll get over it. All women have periods and they are natural. He gave you 10 years of his life, and you reward him OP listen please You are in no way responsible for ruining this man’s life. He didn’t get those from no one. He said that the days he took to himself he had gone to a shelter that was near his job to look for a dog, because I had been constantly pestering him for one and he said that he wanted to get one for my birthday. That is very true, but to say that the ex “ruined her life” is problematic, especially that this happened two years ago. It's his toy and he can choose to do what he wants with it. Weed has RUINED my relationship, I am so close to breaking up with my boyfriend, I hope he realizes what weed has caused us cause he is an incredible man (sober) He smokes every day about 3 times, in the second he has his first puff his entire personality changes. Family, friends, anyone. Lately, my husband has been acting strange—always on his phone, disappearing for late-night "work. He accompanied me to many therapy sessions in the beginning, helped get everything back on track and just generally tried to be there for me in every way possible. If there was a textbook way to handle the situation, he could’ve written the whole thing. And I would say you definitely have not ruined his life! Look at all the great qualities he has. Welcome to r/AmITheAsshole. I asked him if he was with other people over the break and he said no but after he went through MY phone and hid his, I decided to take his phone and lock myself in the bathroom with it while he was asleep. Background: -We have been dating for a year (2 years this December) -Our birthdays are in the same month (this month), his was the on the third and mine is tomorrow. I got sad and confused so I laid down next to him hoping for some cuddles trying not to make it more awkward by saying something so I was keeping silent. and you should be willing to make things right, even if it means losing him as a friend (which you will, if he’s smart). Unfortunately, that phase went a bit too far in my life, especially since I worked in a bar for many years. Me = Jane. I hope your sister will find someone in the future who will welcome you and her in his life. It's not over. And my boyfriend said “I KNOW” and then said he was with me for very superficial reasons and sexual reasons where I came out ahead. It was my first time living on my own away from my family and this is really my first real relationship. I feared the worst: that he was My mum said I ruined her life I was born, he eventually went to prison for stabbing one of his wives. Devaluation: The partner is criticized and made to feel inadequate. We don't live together because I don't want to live with his roommates and I won't let him move in with me because I live in a small studio behind my landlords house. Kevin Hart opened the roast by poking fun at Bündchen and her new boyfriend, jiu-jitsu instructor Joaquim Valente, back in May. The Real Housewives of Atlanta The Bachelor Sister Wives 90 Day Fiance Wife Swap The Amazing Race Australia Married at First Sight The Real Housewives of Dallas My 600-lb Life Last Week Tonight with John Oliver He finally spoke to me and said that I've ruined his life. I left his place and asked him never to contact me again. Question - (3 February 2014) : 19 Answers - (Newest, 4 February 2014): A female age 30-35, anonymous writes: Hello all, my boyfriend and I have been together for 3years 3months, just recently he found out the guy I lost my virginity to was 20yr old and I was only 16, I regret it completely and know it was a huge mistake when I was immature young and drunk. My boyfriend broke up with me because I did not take a PhD and it “ruined” his life, now he keeps on coming back to me but I don’t want him in my life anymor Ik I’m being wishy washy but it felt awful when he just said that he wasn’t going to stop me if I wanted to stop talking. I then just laid into and said “ this money is not for you guys it’s for your grandkids and no amount money will ever repair years I lost being stuck in a horrible marriage because you scared me into believing I would go to hell if I got a divorce” then I looked at my mom straight in the face and said “ you ruined my life all of this I was 14 when I was with my ex, he was 16 going on 17 and what finally ended the relationship was him leaving me for his side piece (who ended up being two years younger than me, and pregnant with his kid) last I heard, from a mutual Maybe talk to her and say you will be happy with someone else helping out and try it out. He's seen his son at least six times since I gave birth and three in my presence. 5 months after dating, and a month after that conversation, it's my birthday (it was this Tuesday). Reply reply More replies. One Christmas I got my gallbladder out the day prior and I sat on the could quietly. He is outgoing, funny, intelligent and the kindest person I know. He proceeded, you proceeded. He doesn’t seem like he wants an open relationship. My (23f) boyfriend (25m) said I ruined valentines day. So I messaged him to see where he was the previous night. TL;DR: Boyfriend of 5 years that I had financially supported for everything decided to cheat on me and spread my nudes, I wasted his RuneScape riches on 6,000 dead spiders and completely trashed his 14+ years of effort, leaving him with nothing to show for but a shameful username. Everyone still believes he was horrible to me. It’s the wisdom I use to help couples every day. " I am family first. " After that he was in a nursing home for over a year. ” Then he sort of made fun of me to make his friend laugh. 9 months into our relationship, I find out he was cheating on me the whole time. When they saw each other again, my boyfriend was shocked at how bad he was with the drink and tried to talk to him about it. I felt I ruined his life but he always said things like he doesn't regret it one bit whenever he saw me being good or giving him a kiss on the cheek/hugging him things like that. A resource for sharing the latest memes, jokes and real stuff about parenting, relationships, food, and recipes Unhappy couple. Now, my boyfriend and I have been making plans for my birthday. He Well, they say there's two sides to every story, but I have to say, I'm stumped here. I have mixed feelings wondering if I just ruined his life, but he also just ruined mine, may have ruined others before me and could have ruined others after me. Paternity comes back the child is my husband’s and we get visitation again thank GOD. He clearly stated where he stood with you. He said I should do something about it and it completely ruined the mood for him. I was never home and outside fucking some random girl. She was caught cheating BTW and the man she cheated with went back to his wife. Let her go. A lady in front of me noticed them and said “you’re a good husband” and I said “actually, they’re for my daughter” She says, “well, you’re a good dad” I just don’t get it. I'd go round for dinner, we all Exactly what my single father told me growing up. What few friends he had left abandoned him. I need help, did I ruin my boyfriend's life? comments sorted by Best Top New Controversial Q&A Add a Comment. She said: “When I did find out I was pregnant, it was a bit of a He actually had friends and was very social and was even popular at that. it’s your responsibility to fix that. Finally I sent him something asking when he was going to his brothers and he said he was already in the car on his way and that he'd text me later. Even if nothing comes out of this, I feel like I did the right thing. Seems to me she’s given you an out to never go “home” again, and you should take it. And I agree to a point that is true, had my parents said no to my wife going to med school, I would have spoken up. Alcohol had taken most of his life but he had finally learned how to stop. I was feeling good just because I was loving him and he was next to me. We ened up getting into a huge fight over text. So suddenly the kids are confused and frankly traumatized because all the eldest has known is living with his dad every other week for the majority of his life, and the younger one living with his dad every other week for the last 27 months of his life. He "You're A Loser" Unhappy couple. When we were there I saw him show my mom something on his phone. We have been constantly arguing lately about such stupid stuff, but it always ends with him mentioning how I ruined his life. Ex bf says I ruined his life . I didn't write back. As a couples therapist who has helped thousands of couples bring their relationship I ruined my family's life and I don't regret it. I don’t have a drinking problem, but I’ve had my nights. Best example of his is when you said "my Annie" She is not you'res she is her own person now without you. In fact, "you don't understand" because it's not your problem, which is also precisely why you're, "not able to help him. HE said he is incredibly in love with me but I have to understand his disdain for constant communication. I only want a boyfriend primarily because I want regular, stress-free sex. We started talking again and he said that it was the biggest mistake he's ever made. He ended up abandoning his lease in March and both of us moved back in with our Dad. That said, and especially if he resists taking action and responsibility, his emotional state I guess I’ll just cut to the chase and say that my boyfriend always says I ruin everything. Haha my boyfriend and I were talking about football and I said “yah I hate the Steelers” and he goes “this is why I love you” we had been together 2 months 😂 he looked mortified and was like, That was not how I was supposed to say that the first time. I was the only girl in my house growing up with 5 brothers. I never really thought about it so I really didn’t say much. I tried to tell him that it was over between us, but he asked for a second chance. Your son sounds really cool and you're discouraging positive behaviours. Because in the end, I was the one in tears and Your mom "won", but she's the runner up. Stewing in this narrative isn’t healthy. He was a good guy and I really did/do love him, but he just wasn’t putting in effort (even after I asked multiple times) which ultimately led “You're Overreacting” Toxic partners often use this phrase to dismiss your Your bf is not only OK with hurting your feelings, he seems to think it’s an unavoidable part of “improving” you. She is toxic to you. Of course everyday life is more complicated than that. You’re seeing life through your very skewed lens. I bawled my eyes out in my car. My father said nothing at first but as soon as we got back to his home state he started asking us questions. He and only himself can be accountable for how he views his life. I stayed with my boyfriend and he was grumpy 24/7. Her (then) boyfriend saw, and she convinced him not to tell me. You are, however, in a mess and need some help to get out of it. Discard: The narcissist may leave or 2. i think if you really care about him you should tell him and let him be in charge of his future. If anyone wants to "play family" its you. TLDR; went on a date with another guy in the beginning of current relationship and lied about it. It confused me. He kissed her back. Fans Brady said Brady might have been too focused on football to see what was happening with them, even joking that football, not jiu-jitsu, had actually “ruined” his life. Yes, and yes! Honestly, the prize she won is a pathetic easily swayed loser who took what she was offering because it was easy and freely given. onion rings. tvwtokv jln qkqez babwf cojb sivmc nkbbikva slku jdoei wsmfss